Some 30 years ago, before she became my mother-in-law, Betty Harness thought I was going to do something wrong. Flat-out wrong. And she wasn't going to let that silently go by.
Here's what she did -- and we can all use this approach:
- She made sure we were alone for the conversation.
- She assured me it wasn't me she disapproved of -- it was my decision she didn't like.
- She told me it was important that I understood how she felt, and that she'd never mention it again.
- She never mentioned it again.
Betty Harness would have been 95 today. As the saying goes, "In love we are remembered, and in memories we live."