The next time you're upset with someone -- at home or at work -- pretend that you need to write a letter of recommendation for that person. It doesn't have to be real long, but at least three short paragraphs. It does have to be sincere.
Composing the letter reminds you of the person's good traits. It's a matter of creative focus: Look for what's wrong, and you'll find it. Look for the good, and it's there too.
2 comments:
Hi Jan,
That's very useful method to feel yourself relax and rasp your anger for that person.
And it reminded me another method. It's something to do when you break up with your gf/bf. You get a paper and pen and make a list of his/her worst behaviours and habits which you hate. Then you see that there are many. And then this list lighten your bitter grief. Right?
Kind regards
Burcu
That's a great idea! And if you run out of bad behaviours and habits to add, just ask a friend ... they can probably add to the list for you. :-)
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