Friday, January 20, 2017

The World Doesn't End Today

I know, I know, I know. Many of us are bereft to see these eight years end -- not because a Republican is taking office; there are many wonderful Republicans. But, as the majority of Americans agree, the man who's taking office isn't on that list.

(Fascinating how I hate to mention his name. Words have power and his name alone makes me cringe.)

Since he-who-must-not-be-named has said he doesn't really start work until Monday, I'm going to take a leap of faith and say the world won't end today. I'm praying it won't end during the next four years. And, with that in mind, here are three ways to help us move forward:

Keep the hope alive. The Obamas are leaving the White House, not leaving America. Sign up here for updates on post-presidential activities and the Obama Foundation.

Speak up. Show up. Call your senators and representatives. Attend protests and rallies. Now is the time to speak up. My mom says everything happens for the best, and I truly believe the best thing about this administration will be the unstoppable force of positive power we unleash together.

Take care of you. I've experienced this, and I know others have too: The combination of personal stress and political insanity becomes overwhelming. There are times when you need to turn off the tweets and step away from the news. You can't run on political anger non-stop for the next four years. You'll run out of steam. Breathe in, breathe out. Enjoy the goodness all around us -- it's still there, my friends. Then, come back refreshed, and ready to continue the battle.

We the People are here.

Saturday, December 31, 2016

My Wish for You in 2017

Be kind.

Be kind to yourself. Be kind to those around you. Be kind to strangers. Be kind to animals. Be kind to people who share your beliefs -- and those who don't. Be kind to the helpers: the clerk, the plumber, the policeman, the waiter. Be kind to teachers. Be kind to your neighbors. Be kind to people who look like you -- and those who don't. Be kind to your family. And, because it bears saying one more time: Be kind to yourself.

Kindness is magic. One kind word can transform a day. One kind person can transform a life. One kind community can transform the world.

Be kind.

Image from The Madison Park Group.

Thursday, December 22, 2016

Creative Query: How Stupid Do We Look?

Words are amazing. They paint pictures, influence attitudes, shape lives.

Words are also flexible. They can be twisted to obfuscate and obliterate the truth. So when this screen pops up as Tom and I buy theatre tickets online, my response is: Who are you kidding?

Why exactly is this fee convenient? And is the extra tax on it extra convenient? Or, could this be a convenient way for the theatre to make more money, while expecting consumers to plan ahead rather than going to a show on the spur of the moment -- you know, a plan that actually is convenient?

And that senior ticket price? Same price as the child's fee or the regular adult fee. So, yeah ... you have conveniently made me feel old for no benefit.

Words matter. Just say it. Seating fee. Advance fee. Online fee. Selection fee.

OK, the cranky-pants writer is done for the moment. In honor of the holidays, I will not charge you an extra fee for reading this online, at your convenience.

Friday, December 16, 2016

Creativity Tips: How to be a Successful Freelancer

In 2017, I will celebrate 15 years of working for the best boss ever -- ME. At this point, I would be a truly pathetic employee for anyone else. I like to work on my pace, on my timetable, and in my jammies.

As a matter of fact*, I'm writing this post in my jammies, and it's 9:38 a.m. at the moment.

Now, the flip side of that story is that at 9:38 last night, I was working on a hot deadline for a client that came in after "closing time" for most businesses. So, let's not think it's all lollipop kids and unicorns here.

But, I digress. Here's the point of this post: After 15 years on my own, I'm frequently asked for advice by people considering a career move into the freelance world. Here's what I tell them:

  1. Treat yourself like a client. Think about the move strategically.
    What is your career goal? What is your monetary goal? Can you reach these goals as a solo practitioner? What is your financial situation? Can you afford slow times? 
  2. Treat yourself like a friend. Again, think about it strategically -- but with heart. 
    Do you like being alone? Will you miss the water-cooler chats? Do you have the willpower and resolve needed to get up and go to work when no one will notice if you don't?
  3. Talk before you act.
    Network. Talk with friends who are freelancers. Contact freelancers who aren't friends, and see if they have any advice to offer. (Some of us are friendlier than others, I've discovered.) Consider this a research paper: Get all the inputs possible, then shift through and decide what is of value to you. 
  4. Work with professionals. 
    I didn't do this at the start, but -- looking back -- it seems like it would have been a good idea to talk to an attorney or banker or someone at the SBA who knows about small business and might have informed ideas re: the best way to set the business up. I benefited from the help of a friend who is my accountant, and it has all worked just fine. But "seat of the pants" isn't your recommended route. 
  5. Line up your first freelance job, before you leave your current job.
    What? Did I hear you say you don't have a choice? That you've lost the old job and that's why you're thinking about freelance? Uh-oh. Sorry, my friend, but it's time to re-evaluate. The freelance life is not easy or simple. If you're choosing it as a last resort, I suggest you look for a "real job" a little longer. 
  6. Put half of every paycheck away for taxes, business expenses, etc. 
    My friend Phil gave me this advice when I was going through Step #3. You will do a job for a client. They will send you a check. It will seem HUGE, to use the adjective of choice these days. What you need to remember is this: The client didn't take any taxes out of that check. The client didn't take any healthcare fees out of that check. The client isn't buying your office supplies. By putting half of every paycheck into your business savings account (or holding it sacred in the business checking account), you will be able to pay bills when they come due. 
  7. Stick to a schedule, even though you don't have to. 
    This advice came from my friend Jamie, and it got me out of a rut. Go to work on time. My office is in my home, thus making it easier for the whole jammies and unicorns approach. However, it is totally separate from our living space and dedicated to work. I am in my office every morning, Monday through Friday, between 8 - 8:30 a.m. and am typically there until 5 p.m. Bonus: Clients know they can contact me during regular business hours. I'm not a "flaky" freelancer. 
  8. Plan to spend more time than expected on billing and other really unfun aspects of work. 
    When I was creative director at Blades & Associates, I had the luxury of focusing on copy and design. The account pros took care of clients and monthly reports; the accountants took care of billing. Or someone did. I don't know -- it wasn't me. All I had to do was track my billable time. Now, it's all me. Oh, sure, I could hire that out. But when you're a freelancer, every dollar you spend is YOUR dollar, so you approach money differently. I choose to spend the time and do it myself. But I had no idea how much time would be involved. Consider yourself warned. 
  9. Get comfortable with chaos.
    Two weeks ago, I had more work than I could accomplish in a day. I worked from early morning until my creative brain gave up. Today, I have two relatively quick jobs to do, and I'm putting them off because they're not due today ... and because I wanted to write this post and wrap a few holiday gifts. I also woke up this morning to an ASAP request from a client in Europe, who is seven hours ahead of me. So her ASAP really is ASAP, because her day is almost over when mine is starting. I never know what the day/week will hold. I'm OK with that, but the random nature of freelancing could make a normal person crazed. 
  10. Keep networking. 
    Get out of the office, especially if your office is at home. You will think better, create better, feel better if you have regular contact with other human beings. 
  11. Enjoy the benefits. 
    Sure, I have to pay my own health insurance. Yeah, I have to do my own billing. On the other hand, I can run a load of laundry while writing an annual report. And I can take time in the middle of the day to go see Mom if I want to -- because no one cares if I'm writing at 10 a.m. or 10 p.m., as long as I hit their deadline. 
  12. Manage your reputation. 
    We're back to Step #1 and Step #2. And this may be the most important part of being a freelancer. You are all you have. Your reputation is everything. Be nice to people. Treat them fairly. Talent and quality obviously matter to clients. But success as a freelancer goes far beyond that. Be a good person. Be someone you would want to work with, if you had a choice -- because your clients have a lot of choices. Why should they work with you? Are you kind? Are you friendly? Are you responsive? Do you care about their success? 

I could keep going, but a dozen tips seems like a good number. Basically, my friends, freelance life is absolutely lovely when you surround yourself with a circle of creative friends and clients, watch your finances, continually keep business in the pipeline, embrace chaos and enjoy solitude. I do all of that, and have managed to make a lovely life -- and an excellent living -- as a writer. My job is a gift that I am grateful for every single day.

Questions? Post away or email me. I'm a Jewish momma. I'm happy to give advice.

*Advice: When you say, "As a matter of fact" or "Frankly" or any of those kind of phrases, you imply that everything else you're saying is not fact or frank. Best to avoid them.

Designed by Chandler, at Kalimizzou. See Step #4 above.
And check out his creative design process for the logo here!

Wednesday, December 14, 2016

Words Matter: Copy This Letter to Electors

Words are powerful, and time is running out. If you'd like to write to members of the Electoral College, feel free to copy my words. Now is the time. They vote on Monday.

December 14, 2016

From:   (Name and Address)

To:       Elector – list with addresses is available at

Your responsibility as a presidential elector is tremendous, and I commend you for your political engagement.

Now, you have the rare and wonderful opportunity to put the Electoral College to work in its proper way. It was created to prevent people like Donald Trump from assuming power and becoming president.

I am asking you to use your best judgment and vote for another candidate. Hillary Clinton would certainly be a logical option, given her margin of victory in the popular vote. However, if you cannot in good conscience vote for Secretary Clinton, then I respectfully ask that you vote for a candidate that you and your fellow electors find more worthy.

This is not a partisan issue. This is a matter of maintaining our wonderful democracy. There are numerous reasons why the president-elect is not fit to be president, and I have no doubt that you are familiar with them all – from his temperament, to his lies, to his attitudes about women and immigrants, the list goes on and on. Add to that, the Russian interference with our election, and you have more than enough valid reasons to cast your vote in a manner that supports the mandate of the Electoral College and protects American values.

We only need a handful of brave patriots in the Electoral College to act responsibly and save our country. I hope with all my heart that you will be one of them.

Thank you for your service and your consideration.


Tuesday, December 6, 2016

Creativity Tips: Make it a Whale of a Tale

If you're going to do something creative, don't hold back. Shake your tail feathers and go for the gusto.

December 9 marks 100 years since the birth of Issur Danielovich, better known as Kirk Douglas. He is one of the few people I've ever written a fan letter to -- I wanted to thank him for his performance in 20,000 Leagues Under the Sea.

Specifically, I thanked him for shaking his tail feathers as he sang "A Whale of a Tale." That little wiggle kept me going on days when the girls were little and wanted to watch Disney Sing-A-Long videos. Over and over again. Some of those songs got a bit tiresome after the first two dozen plays.

But watching Kirk Douglas? That never gets old. I mean, seriously: That's one fine-looking man. And one very cute tush.

Happy 100!

P.S. No, he didn't respond. Maybe I shouldn't have been quite so specific in my praise.

Wednesday, November 23, 2016

Food is Love: Unsalted Baking Co.

@unsaltedbakingco on Instagram
I haven't done a "Food is Love" post for a while. But this is the perfect time to share good news and good food. I'm delighted to announce that Mary and her friend Tyler have officially launched Unsalted Baking Company, LLC

Consider the pic above a nosh -- a little sampling. It doesn't even include a photo of their world-famous chocolate chip cookies. 

Now, being the supportive mother that I am, I have FORCED MYSELF to sample all the goodies. You know, just to make sure they're acceptable. They are acceptable. (Ohmilord. The strawberry cupcakes may be my new favorite food group. Because I can eat a group of them. And the peanut butter cake is scrumptious. Ditto the chocolate pie. Well, ditto for all of it.)

Unsalted Baking Co. is now taking orders for your holiday parties, special events, or day-to-day cravings. Enjoy! Oh -- and when you check out their Instagram feed, you'll discover that their copy is as beautiful as the photos. Makes my heart happy. 

You know you want some. Send an email
P.S. I'm thankful for the good sense to know that I need to step away from politics for a few days and give my heart and soul a rest. I'll be back on social media, checking news, planning the revolution, etc., on Monday. 

P.P.S. As always, I'm thankful for you! I hope your holidays are filled with happiness and love. Save yourself a corner of time to be creative.