Whoa. Think about that for a moment. And, as you do, consider this:
18 Ways to be a Mensch
- Be nice to the waiter.
- Follow the advice from Sai Baba, an Indian spiritual master: "Before you speak, ask yourself: Is it kind, is it necessary, is it true? Does it improve upon the silence?"
- Hold doors open, especially for the elderly or people with arms full of packages or babies. Smile as you let them go through.
- When you make a mistake, apologize. Graciously. Face-to-face, if possible, and with no excuses.
- Put your phone away. Pay attention to the person right in front of you.
- Look for the lonely people. Let them know you're there, if they want to talk.
- Say, "Thank you!" Say, "You're welcome!"
- Let someone else win -- let them have the worst day, or the best cookies.
- Don't go for the easy joke, if it might hurt someone's feelings.
- Think about the other person's feelings.
- Remember that everyone -- everyone -- is struggling with something. (Since this is a series on being a mensch, I'll continue with the Yiddish. We all have tsurris (troubles, disasters, heartache). We all have mishegas (craziness).
- Offer help to someone who is struggling, without waiting to be asked.*
- Let the other driver cut in front of you during rush hour. Don't flip him off.
- Visit someone who is ill.
- Surprise a neighbor with homemade goodies.
- Show up. Attend the weddings. Attend the funerals.
- Listen to the answer -- or the silence -- when you ask someone how they're doing. Respond appropriately.
- Put decency, human dignity and respect first.*
*Thanks to Carol and Mark for their contributions from Monday's post! We'll wrap up this series tomorrow with our Mensch Manifesto. I hope. I haven't written it yet ...