I recently went to lunch with a woman who made me feel <. You know. Less than. Less than important. Less than worthy. Less than her.
of our discussion centered on wealth. While nothing was ever said
directly, she clearly communicated that I didn't have enough money to
Now, those of you who know me know that
money has never been my primary motivator. On the other hand, I have
made a good living -- and a good life -- as a writer and I'm very proud
So why did I take her comments to heart? I
don't know. I don't know. All I can tell you is that she reminded me of
the truth in the old cliche: People will forget what you say. People
will forget what you do. But they'll never forget how you made them
Fortunately, I am typically surrounded by people
who make me feel =. Even a handful who make me feel >. Not greater
than them -- that wouldn't be fun. But greater than your average Joe.
Greater than ordinary. Definitely greater than I did when I walked into
I love these people. They're > than anything.
about your people? What about you? When you consider your relationship
equations, are you making people feel less than? Equal? Greater than?
are lots of ways to know. A little self-actualization helps. But you
can also watch the other person's body language. Does he make eye
contact? Is she suddenly slumping in her chair? Is he physically pulling
Then, take a psychic step back and listen. Does
she sound defensive? Is he getting awfully quiet?
People matter. Feelings matter. Words
matter. Why, just writing this post is my way of getting my mojo back.
With that in mind, I've got one more thing to say and then I'll let it go:
Kindness is > wealth.